Romantics have sensitive feelings, are warm and perceptive. This page is an attempt to explain this even further. Please note that I have taken the liberty to use some material from the following site: www.9types.com. I can recommend this site highly for those who would like to investigate these interesting ideas further.
Healthy loop:
(controlled by Basic Desire) |
Need for
self-understanding->examine self->understand themselves->
need for self-understanding.
In the healthy state, the need for self-understanding induces Type Fours to allow their emotions to surface and examine these emotions in order to understand themselves. When Fours achieve self-understanding, their need is satisfied and a balance is reached. In the average state, when Fours' do not examine closely their emotions, they start to not understand themselves. This increases the need for self-understanding, which helps Fours to again examine themselves. Thus the balancing loop can help Fours to recover. |
Unhealthy loop:
(controlled by Basic Fear) |
Fear of being defective
-> indulge in
fantasy-> understand themselves
-> fear of being defective.
In the unhealthy state, the basic fear of being defective can cause Type Fours to ignore their true selves, allow their emotions to overwhelm them, and indulge in wild fantasy about themselves. This means they will understand themselves even less, and further increases Fours' basic fear. The cycle continues to build up. |
Insight: | We can see from the diagram that a way to help break the control of the basic fear is to weaken the unhealthy loop. Fours can refrain from indulging in fantasy and start examining themselves. This will help Fours to understand themselves, and reduce the fear of being defective. |
How to Get Along with Me :
What I Like About Being a Four :
What's Hard About Being a Four :
Fours as Children Often :
Fours as Parents :
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